Ian, Nothing is impossible yet you failed. If anybody talks to much it is you. In a previous post you said I linger on too much when she initiates conversation. Because that is all I had dude. I was getting the text. I was getting the hugs and kisses. I was getting the initiated I love yous from her. Now she is just more detached because I tried to put the screws into her.
Journal:
This evening so far went pretty well and I think it could have went in a disastorous way.
Like I said she called me at 5 to 6 before her shift was up. I'm going to the store after work so can they stay with you ahwhile longer. At quarter to 8. My daughter calls her, because she wants to be picked up. Misses her mother. I have to deal with that anxiety. She doesn't answer the phone. About 10 mintues go by and she said she is home putting away stuff and she will be right up to pick them up and she wants son to come too. It takes her 20 minutes to get to my house and she has a song and dance story that she lost her keys to the house and that is why it took her so long. So she couldn't call???? Then she wants the other key to our explorer because at least she will have a remote. I give her the key without thinking.
Ok why would she leave her house unlocked? Why would she not just call me and say can you drop them off because I can't find my keys? Why did it take two hours to go to a dollar store? When I know the store closes at 7. Why did she take the key? Did someone tell her you know what you better get his spare keys because he could just take the vehicle off you.
Something I would never do. I was calm with her and acted as if, and said oh you will find your keys don't worry. You went into the house with them, they must be somewhere.
Things just don't add up. She never wants me to drop the kids off to her in the evening. She would rather come to the house. Now my son wants to stay with me tonight. Lets see how this plays out.
You know my anxiety level was pretty high because I thought she was going to start what she did the other night. Our kids want to be with her and she went shopping and didn't return until four hours later.
I could have made the sitch worse. I could have said why didn't you answer your phone? What took you so long at the store? You haven't seen your kids in almost 24 hours and you don't want to be with them. You lost your keys? Why didn't you call me? Why did it take you 20 minutes for a 3 minute ride. Why why????? But none of this went down. Because I'm not reacting to any of her nonsense.
When she didn't answer her phone. I just told my daughter. I'm sorry honey, and I held her. I said I don't want to fight with your mother. She will call soon.
My friend was here and we were talking all evening. She yelled into goodbye (Friends name). Then I did ask her for a hug. She said why I'm all gross and greasy from work. I said that doesn't matter to me. Then I walked out with her and said you will find your keys don't worry. She was complaining about her OCD. I said you'll find them you just must have put them somewhere and can't remember where. She was all worried because the store keys were on that ring.
