it's really ok to feel that way. rememeber, it's going to be a rollarcoaster, regardless of how it turns out.
my personal opinion is that spending time with them is good. No matter how pissed you get at her for how she's acting, you will always be connected.... thru abby. the one thing you might want to consider is that you will be present for everything together...1st communion, concerts at school, etc. You need to try and be friends for her sake.
as for your feelings, i get the same way. I go about 3/4 days without seeing her (just a little time on the phone each day, after the other says goodnite to the kids), and i begin to think i can do this...
then i see her.....
and it's like a huge punch in the gut sometimes. I can't believe i screwed up something so nice with my actions....now i know it takes two to tango...but its a pretty powerful feeling.
hope that makes sense
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
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