Wife Filed And I Need Help With Busting ASAP

[Scott123]

Well W texted me two more times about money, so I had to tell her
that I was busy and would bring it over late tonight.

I'll try to get her alone and have a talk with her about some
of the stuff I've been noticing especially about the kids and
then just tell her I can no longer support her financially.
It would be great if she broke down from the huge hole
she has dug for herself and the reality of the situation, but
I'm not counting on it.

I've been thinking about the next plan of action after this and
I think I'm going to wait a week and then start working on the
house again. My thoughts are that my wife is reaching out to
this OM for emotional support and attention. I think it's time
to start the competition. The DB process is all about testing
so I'm thinking of testing the waters with the following:

Since we've been really distant the past 2 months I think
a major 180 would be to be around as much as possible. I
will act as if there is nothing wrong between us regardless of
her moods. I'll toss in a highly positive mood at all times and
include some flirting since my W is highly sexual and always
responds favorably to that. These actions would be a complete
180 from the previous 2 months. I figure I'll romance her a bit,
compliment her regardless of how her mood is.

Hopefully that will draw her interest and get her pursuing me
a bit instead of this other dude.

I think I have an advantage because I have lots of reasons to
be at our house. The kids, working on the house etc. It will
be hard for her to avoid seeing me on a regular basis. I look
pretty damn good now to, working out, etc. Plus she always
gets turned on when I am doing physical work around the house,
as she's specifically told me this many times.

I'm very aware that this would be a fine line in the pursuit
department, but I will stay totally away from R talk and simply
act like everything is fine between us. I cannot see her keeping
an angry mood up when I'll be upbeat and pleasant at all times.

This should make her face reality into what she is throwing
away as well. I'll keep that up for about two weeks then simply
go dark for several days to see how she responds. No explanation,
I'll just not go over for a few days and make no attempt to
contact her.

- Scott