hi kptch, we've got some big differences in our sitchs, but here goes....

what changes did you make that you thought were going good ?

what did you read in the last two weeks that you wish you knew sooner ?

do you know that most of good communication is listening ?

ask your W, "if she were willing to give you another chance, what would she want to be different?". If she doesn't know, go to 5 love languages, ask her which hers is, & start filling her love bucket.

Did she ask you to move out ? or did you assume she wanted you to ?

I'm probably the wrong one to answer the last question. If H had not changed, & wasn't willing to try, we'd be divorced. period.

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.