Hey Bridge, so sorry you're feeling so bad. I can relate, too many times, way too many times. The argument that goes in circles, cause he diverts, blocks, blames, aarrgghh !!! The interrupting used to drive me insane. Then FG explained data stream to me. It helps. If you want I'll explain it.

Have you read my tennis analogy ? It helped me walk away, drop the rope.

I'd also go get out the VAR book, & find page & paragraph of what he was doing, then I'd e-mail it to him, tell him if he wanted to talk to me, he had to re-read those pages first.

It helped.

Take care of you. Be gentle with you. Do whatever lifts your spirits, good music, good book, good movie, walking ? bubble baths ? herbal tea ? chocolate ;\) putting on favorite jammies & crawling in bed in the middle of the day, with chocolate \:\)

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.