Your advice isn't advice. It's a video game. You try and take the controls. I'm on advice freaking overload.
Your dead wrong here Phil. You have the inate ability to twist things into what works for you. You do it with your wife all the time. It won't work on me. You keep saying you are on advice overload yet up to this point you haven't taken the advice given. You continually try and do all you can to sabotage yourself and blame those here for your failures. For a guy who is a self proclaimed perfectionist, you don't do it very well.
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Ian, is your wife home with you?
Nope, and a big part of why is because I was just as foolish as you for a long time and didnt put the actions needed in. Way to prove my point Phil. Maybe next time read up on me before you speak. I am one of those posters fortunate enough to be able to post to people based on my own failures and mistakes that I learned to regret.
You think your the first to think he knows what is best, your not. You think your the first to believe he can fix it on his own, your not. You think your the first to use your intelligence to deflect reality, your not. I have said to you before that you and I have a lot in common but you don't HEAR the message.
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LETS SEE IAN. I SAID EVERYTIME I TRY TO IMPLEMENT THE ADVICE I GET ON THIS BOARD IT BLOWS UP IN MY FACE.
Phil, lets call a spade a spade here. You my dear sir are completely full of [censored]. When have you tried to implemenet and actually given it any significant chance to work? You have not gone more than a day without contact and if you read back through your threads you will clearly see this.
You initiate contact constantly and when she is the initiator you make it last way longer than it should.
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I leave her alone. I do not bother with her. I do not call her. I do not ask about her wear abouts or what she is up too. She does not talk to me. I let her come and do laundry as she pleases. I try to accomodate her with the children at every given moment. Being nice to her. Staying sober. This has worked.
I don't even know how to respond to this part. When do you leave her alone for any period of time? When do you not bother her? When do you not call her? And most importantly, how is this working? Oh, and by the way, staying sober is supposed to be for you.
Mr. Holy church roller should know that the alcoholism, name calling of the wife, constant blaming, and rudeness to others won't open the pearly gates anytime soon right? Not for nothing but Rosary beads do not give you a free pass to be a prick.
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Todays readings were about the flesh. Well isn't that what we all do. Sorry.... I'm going to have to stand by the Church on this one. She is out of control, where I used to be out of control. However I never abandoned my family. I was out of control because she tried to control me on every single thing. She nagged, b|tched, and complained about everything. If I walked crocked. If I breathed her air wrong. If I stepped on a crack, didn't kill a bug right, didn't install something right, missed a spot cutting grass. I heard about it all....
One last thing and I will bid you a fond ado.... Why do you want this marriage back? You complain about absolutely everything and you make it seem like you were completely miserable, I don't understand what you see that you want back here?
