Lightbulb and Castanets Moments

[newnamenewlife]

He *is* to blame for ending things without working on it at all, but why do I have to have everyone know this?

Hi Gypsy,
I do the exact same thing--slip in comments that make it clear that H left me, not the other way around.

Reading your earlier post about one of you checking out of the M a while ago also resonated for me--although I am the one who feels guilty about doing that. I was the one who for years after having kids found having sex to be more of a chore than anything else--although, to be fair to myself, we had it regularly anyway and often on vacations alone we'd rekindle the spark big-time.

What struck me so hard when H announced that S was the only option (before working on the M, which he felt he couldn't force himself to do) was that practically every longterm M with kids has these same issues--with intimacy. Why do almost all my friends' H's hang in there and make it work somehow, but mine wouldn't?
It feels so unfair.

Anyway, just wanted to chime in, as I've read your posts for a while.