SC, This DAM thing was invented by FG. According to him one of the main traits of DAM is that they don't know they are DAM. Most of us here are probably not DAM at least by now after listening and learning for months. I think your H is not a DAM, nor are you a WAW! A WAW is totally and intentionally "checked out", brain damaged beyond repair, kaput, a gone case, permanently lost behind a wall! The WAH and the DAM are much easier to change than the WAW. If my W was half way committed to the M I wouldn't be here as would be the case for many others. No kick in *ss would move her in the right direction. They are the one's leaving the marriage and will do nothing to try to save it yet they put all the blame for their actions on the H. I see your commitment - to me that's the biggest component of love.
