Well, this afternoon I guess will be a turning point. A bad one im afraid. Hes bringing the papers out for me to look at. I dont know if I can see them with out freaking out. Ill try, but this is going to be really hard. I will preserve my dignity, and go to another room to meltdown I guess. I dont know what to do. Can I ask for more time? Is it okay to say that I wont sign them as long as hes having an affair? I feel so lost.
Hi, blue! I'm new to your sitch, but do you have a L yet? I wouldn't sign anything until you have an L look over the paperwork. That will also give you at least a little delay that I think you were looking for as well. But I would try to act as cool as possible about the divorce if you can. I saw someone posted recently that it helped when they acted like the divorce was the greatest idea; I don't think I can do that, but I don't think my H does realize how truly upset I am and wouldn't understand that anyway. When having an affair, they are in fogs and fantasyland and all the rest, and you should try to focus on you: protecting yourself with a L, and focusing more on yourself rather than your H's current craziness. Karen
