Well, H is a big boy, and he needs to take care of himself. Continue to detach from him and look to your own needs and the needs of your children. Try not to worry yourself about him.

(I know you know this already. Just reiterating for all of us.)

Me: 49
WAW: 47
S11, S7
Years Married/Together: 17/18
Bomb: 6/15/07
Separation: 7/6/07
D: 4/3/09

Real love is a decision.
Marriage is a commitment.