If you need practice detaching, I would suggest going on your own time with your D.
Your H likley expects you would want to go, so this is a bribe.
He needs you to leave him alone or he will never grow up my dear.
He is still playing games. He is waaaaaaaaaaaay too old to be playing these games.
The solution is to detach from him until he grows up to the point he can be straight with you and work as a team of two parents. He just wants to keep playing solo and clueing you on your marriage when it suits his mood.
Offer him educative resources (MC, books, articles, etc), but don't offer him any of your TIME.
Give him what he needs to get to adulthood, but don't spoon feed him. My dear this is one thing he must learn on his own. YOU must learn this too if you are to be a good parent later on. Children will have to learn to do things themselves gradually as they grow up and YOUR job at that time as a parent is to DETACH and let the child LEARN.
In this case, your H is the one who needs to grow and learn...you have to give him the space to do that or you will always have a child around you who never grew up.
This is a learning lesson parents often have trouble with. Letting their children grow up...this goes for their spouses when they are being jeuvenille as well.
Detach, let him grow up, stop the babying.
He's just playing games and trying to trick you into avoiding resolving this like adults. He wants to play games, have sex, make jokes, and ultimately pretend none of this happened.
He wants to live like he's single, but have all the benefits of a LTR at the same time. Growing up is learning to let go of the former, and embracing the latter.
He has to learn how to do this himself, you CAN'T do this FOR him ok?
Just detach and let him learn. Each time you cater to his games he becomes more of a child, each time you refuse to play his games he has to grow into an adult.
Leave him alone and let him grow up. this is to your daughter's benefit too.
