Nit picking huh Phil... I don't agree at all, it's your world so think what you would like.
How about this, you tell us how you want to do this since you seem to feel you have all of the answers here. Not for nothing but this is a DB website dedicated to putting the DB techniques into practice in order to try and save your marriage.
How about a list of all of the DB principles that you have applied so far? I would love to here exactly which of the steps you have taken to work on your marriage and yourself.
It is not nit picking. It is concern because you suck at follow through on things that you yourself say you need to do. Nit picking would be telling you you are doing it wrong. Your not, your just not doing it at all.
If you want me to sit here and pat you on the back for screwing up, just say so and I will remove myself from any input to you. I post to you because it is pretty clear to me that you need folks telling you where you are making mistakes. You can take that advice and do as you wish with it. If you expect me to stop advising you on what steps to take and merely wipe your nose, pat your ass and send you back in there, you got the wrong guy.
Do you want to do this or not Phil? Do you want to stop having to kneel at your bed and cry? Do you want to be able to hold your head up again and try and have your family back? Do you want to actually put forth the effort that you say you want to or not?
For heavens sake make up your mind. Shitt or get off the pot so to speak. It is time for you to quit making excuses and start implementing some changes in YOUR lifestyle and techniques because they are simply not working.
