To be here or not to be here

[Snow White]

So now I get the phone call, shat are you doing, aren't you coming down for a swim? Me - I wasn't invited. H - Come. Me - no if we are not going to stay a family this is "your" day. H - D, do you want mommy to come have a swim? D - Yes. H - D wants you to come.

I haven't gone yet, I am just sitting here, what should I do?