Not to criticize, but the fact that after looking at the boxes with her you don't even know which ones they were kind of says something about where the focus was - i.e. not on her errand. While I realize the kids take a lot of focus, it seems to me that she is really missing that attention.
Get back to the compliment a day, keep up the active listening and validating, and keep doing the mirror messages!
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2