I agree that she should not be bringing my kids into this new relationship so quickly..but unfortunately our laws do not allow for me to keep them from her. I would love to force her to make a choice...him or her kids...so she could realize how selfish she is being. As far as my W and the OM having an affair, she maintains she didn't start dating him until after I was gone. I do believe there was nothing physical going on but I believe it was a EA. But she denies that also. It will be tough on her and the kids if he wants to split...especially since she won't have anywhere to go...but who knows, this could go on indefinitely. They could decide to get married when our D is final...who knows? I know it's hard for all of us here that value committment, family, and the life we have built throughout the years. It's crushing to watch as someone tears it all down in a matter of months.


H 42
W 37
M17 T20 years
3 daughters 11,11,14
seperated 11/26/07
EA neighbor/ moved in w/ him 2/8
Filed for D 01/08 finalized soon