Sleeper, They go back to a time where they were emotionally stunted. At that place is where the paths not chosen await them. They go back and to it "one more time", so to speak. It's a treasure hunt for that illusive happiness that they thought they missed out on. It's the place where they need to go back and grow up and face the demons that were never faced during that time. Peter Pan goes back in time to search for Wendy, but unfortunately Wendy grew up and now Peter needs to decide whether to grow up or remain Peter.
Oh, yes, the dressing, etc. Reminds me of my xh's replay days....swore never to get an ear piercing. Yep, got the biggest "imitation diamond" he could find on the market. OW needs shades to look at him in the sun. Changed his drink from ice tea to several six packs of beer a night. Began chewing gum like a cow chewing her cud. Music went from country to hip hop and some God awful dark gothic music you listen to in some of those creepy funeral homes. Had a beautiful head of hair and shaved it completely off and thought he was a cool fat boy. Gained an awful lot of weight and the lost it. Plenty of phone cards and knew where to get them very cheaply too.
Well...now the ow, I just had to find out what he was running to so, I found her at work. Went to her floor at the hospital and had a really good look at her and then laughed all the way down from the cardiac unit. She was a spitting image of her mother in her hey day. Same coloring, height, weight and even the down to the clothing. Now, there's something seriously wrong w/this picture, don't you think? Well...we divorced in 2002 and somewhere between 2002 - 2004, fat boy, or should I say Eggbert married the reincarnation of his mother. I can tell you this, I met w/him in November of 2005, just to see where he's at and that isn't a very happy camper and it's still all about him. Peter Pan got caught by Captian Hook and most likely is still flying around in Neverland. Haven't seen him since, but periodically he pops his head out to leave hang up calls and move things around in my yard. I just shake my head and laugh because Wendy grew up a long time ago and has moved on.
The most valuable lesson in all of this is if Peter wants to fly away and find Neverland, let him. For Peter will never find that land because it's nothing more than an illusion. Wendy grew up a long time ago and Peter could never understand why or how that happened. Time doesn't stand still and you do have to continue moving forward. For Peter, it is up to him to grow up and find a way back to Wendy if it is meant to be. So, all of you Wendys out there, spread your wings and try flitting around a bit, don't worry Peter will find you again some day. When that day comes, you'll be the one who holds the cards and will determine what the future will have in store for the both of you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
