Sometimes in this you are going to feel a bit like a doormat. Letting your wife act and do things that aren't in character, or even what you'd agree with in the confines of your marriage in a healthier state.
The things you need to keep in mind so you aren't a doormat is that life goes on for you no matter what she does. If she comes home again or not you still have to live with you. Telling her that you don't approve of her activities etc will likely cause you to see more of the same crud coming out of her.
Just ignore that stuff and hope if fizzles out. You and I both know the singles scene isn't so great. Let her go and get eyed by random guys in the bar and flirt. My wife does the same stuff. She tells me she doesn't need a man for validation and then she goes out and looking all hot and chats it up with other guys.
Just ignore it. Nothing will be less attractive to her than hearing about your insecurities. I have them too and made the same errors you are talking about. My fine catholic church going wife is out doing the same stuff and skipping mass on sunday. Let it play out and hope for the best man!
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