Been with my w for 7+yrs (3mairred) have 2 kids from other mairrage who I have custody 50%. I missed the signs. My wife went through cancer early in the relationship. It was tough on her and I but we beat it and I was there always. It changed things intimately and probably how affection was shown. I have had trouble showing it, but do,, just not enough,, even though I thought it. Other issues with ex and the kids, parents etc. Regular things along with the blended family.
Few months back I had the bomb dropped saying how bad things are and that my w had unintentionally shut down. Still loves me but just not the way she should and no idea how to turn it back on. I want nothing more in life then to be with my wife and have the chance to show her that I mean it. She says she wants to fix it as well but.......finding the trust in her heart that we can do it is the thing. Many outside factors made us put other things ahead of eachother. I now see it and want to change. W has issues herself and guilt. I told her I mairred her for her and will accept whatever we have intimately as long as we are a mairred couple and I dont want anything but her and the two kids who love their stepmom to death. She showed the walkaway wife syndrome article and said that is a good way to explain some of the issues. I cried my eyes out reading it. Now she knows I and the kids are trying very hard,,, but she feels so much pressure,, that she wants to do a trial separation. It may help I dont know. It could be 3,6,12 months without her. I am not sure how much space she needs and how much contact we will have.I will do anything. I love the women more then anything and could use advice.
I am going to counselling and she has and agreed to go together once I have gone and dealt with some issues on own. advice please
