Aussie Girl - Trying to be patient

[AliSuddenly]

Wow Essie! Thats incredible!!!
I'm so happy for you, you must have been thrilled! News indeed!

I was thinking about your last post (sweaty post gym meeting) and thinking... I'm not sure about the DBing aspects, but do you think you are being TOO 'whatever' with him, um, almost discouraging him from trying again in a way, your so, hey its over, I'm happy for you.. in your convos with him that if I were him I think I'd feel a little foolish, maybe even confused? It would seem that you are over him and just saying 'there there, never mind, its sad, but hey, see you around' - I may be exagerating here, or barking up the wrong tree, but do you think you may be presenting a bit of a wall to him and that might be actually discouraging him??? Like at the end of that emotional convo above, where he revealed vunerabilities to him, you said:

"E: well I'll see you around"

which is a bit...hard? dismissive? After he cried??? Could you have said, well, it was great to see you, keep in touch? Or someting a little bit more inviting than, see you around???

For all I know, you could have done exactly the right thing and been the queen of DBing (I'm sure others will say so!) but it struck me that you are making it VERY hard for him to get closer, its that thing isnt it, they take a little step nearer, you take a little step nearer...but he took a little step and you turned tail and skipped off in the other direction !!??

Just food for thought, but you sound really strong anwyay, which is good,

Ali xxx