MLC BS

[mkultra]

Whew. First let me say that I am sorry for what you are going through and that you are not alone. You have done really well in the DB category. In fact you have been inspirational and you updates are well written.

May I kvetch about your W a little? I feel that she is completely wrong in exposing her affair to her children. In what universe is it acceptable for any mother to even introduce a new man who is not stable? Any OM or OP is a direct attack to the welfare and happiness of the children. In fact, any new relationship must develop over time before even being introduced to children because they may form attachments and then voila there is a break up and the kids are traumatized all over again. Plus, I saw this on Oprah with the Rabbi, children of divorce equate those OP as the reason why the marriage ended and they feel saddened , like they are betraying the abandoned spouse when they meet the OP. How dare she do something that selfish. Classic MLC, selfish. Is this because she married and had kids at a younger age? is that part of your religion also? I am sorry but I may be from a different culture and I am not of your religion. But I told my H under no circumstance would our children ever be allowed to meet his OW as they were having an affair. I have no control over what he does, but my D's TH said I have direct control over who is my D's presence and that it would be unacceptable for her to be exposed to my H's affair. Who are these peopel that think that it is OK to hang out with Mommy's new boyfriend like that!!! Sorry. again. That makes me mad! You are pretty cool so far. Thank goodness my in laws also said they would never agree to meet with any one who would have an affair with their son. Unacceptable. But I guess that it is too late especially considering this OM was already a neighbor. That happens also. How weird but not uncommon since people have affairs within their circles. Sigh. She may stay in denial or come to her senses. Either way you need to come out smelling like a rose. Maybe going dark would be a good thing. If she did have to kids more often it may put pressure on the affair, maybe not. That is a gamble. My mom said that affairs end when reality sets in and the OP realize they do not want someone else's kids!!