You are not just standing and waiting you are FIGHTING for your H. You have told OW in no uncertain terms that you won’t give up…. Pointed out to her that she will always need to be watching H and that given any opportunity you will take him back. That is a very powerful message to send anyone.
You have also made her se that he is not honest.
I see why you would want to continue discussions with her .. so you know exactly what your H is up to …
My only reservation with doing this is that it could all go pear shaped! Your H could get fed up with you talking with OW and cut all contact with you all together just so that you have noting to talk to OW about.
On the other hand he may come back to you but get another OW and this time be more careful about being found out.
If he wants to come back it should be because he wants to and not because he has been forced into a corner and has nowhere else to run…
Also, what if she says the same to you? That she will have him back no matter what…. Would having to watch your H all the time make you happy?
Nutty
Be The Greener Grass.
Me 40 H 42 Son 11 Married 15 years. Left May 2006 after gambling spree I had EA August 2006 OW Aug 07 after another gambling spree (she will make me happy - stop me gambling!) I filed for divorce 9th April 2008.
