Helping OW??

[mkultra]

Hi, so basically your convo with OW are like having a convo with your ex's new wife or Girlfriend. Right? Sometimes that happens. The new person seeks advice from the former flame. That happened with my Dad's OW. She woul also talk to my Mom!! But in this sitch you are competing. I say that it makes you look like a snooper and that makes her look better and weaker at the same time. It only makes you look like a snooper and makes them closer. Even if she gets intimidated by your tenacity, the WAS is seeking someone weaker to comfort. So instead of comforting you, he will comfort poor OW who is making it easier for your H. Affairs are easier than marriage sometimes. That does not create a safe path home for your H. Plus, these affairs need to die a natural death. DO NOT SNOOP. Talking to OW is R talk. Do not do that. Read DB again and again. Stop making her look good. Focus on your own life. Make yourself look good. You are precious and you deserve the best. Stop fighting for someone. Fight for your marriage , yes. But do not prolong the affair by snooping or begging or by making demands. I feel like we are in the same boat because I was also with my H for 23 years and married for ten and I am sure his OW would have loved me also, she was probably very jealous of me. As they should be. We are the wives. We are the mothers. We are the ones that people respect and admire so live like that. Put yourself on that rightful pedestal and become the spouse that people cannot believe the H would actually leave!!! I am sorry if this is not good advice but it helped me to be completely removed from my H's affair(s) because I believe the less we know. the less we have to forgive when the Hs show no contrition. Act As If. Act Happy. PMA!!!