Do you have voyeuristic tendencies ? (totally teasing)
I'm sure there are things you cannot share and that's as it should be ;). But seriously your story is inspiring. What would help to really understand (for both WAW and DAM) is how H went from being so terrible to so enlightened in 2-3 months. Has he told you or do you even know? Most of us have gotten stuck in neutral - the WAW has permanent brain damage and the DAM has no idea how to get over the invisible wall and repair the damage.