everhope, her OM is her lifeboat. You are the ship. She's working the ship/lifeboat system. She's scared to be on her own. She couldn't leave you until she found a potential lifeboat. When the ship appears to be sinking, launch a lifeboat.

Give her time to realize that a lifeboat isn't as nice as a full size ship. Be the most attractive funnest ship ever. Lifeboats can't compare, they're fun at first, but not in the long run.

make sense ?

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.