I know for the longest time I thought he was just faking the changes, & just putting on a good show. I was afraid that he'd go back to the way he was. Then C pointed out to me, that if he did, I could still leave. It wasn't like if I gave him a chance that I could never change my mind again. To some extent, some of it was show, because he's eased up in his efforts a bit, but only because he was soooooooo overboard in kissing my *ss for so long. (it was nice though)
I'm jumping back over to my thread because I need to ramble a bit, & just let things fly onto the page. I'm still trying to figure out why/when the wall crumbled.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
