Hey (((Jeff))), when she's done punishing herself, here's another idea I just remembered.

H would put hershey's kisses in my drawers for me to find. For about 6 months, I just stacked them in another drawer, & wouldn't eat them. When I was mad at him, I'd put them back on his dresser. (I can't believe how juvenile I was)

Now that I think back, it was very cute of him.

I just told him I missed them, he said, "I didn't know if you liked them because you never ate them, & sometimes you'd put them back on my dresser, & I never knew why" LMAO

Communication at it's finest.

M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months
4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10
I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.