Please be careful if you truly decide to keep this 'conversation' going with OW. It's just another way of her still being part of your marriage, and it's never meant to be a party of 3.
That she wants to continue talking to you after the full discussion you've already had would make me very wary.
Sounds to me like everything that needed to be said, was said. She needs to be on her own, not using you or your H. You cannot heal her world any more than you can heal your H world.
Forgive her if you can, but then it's time for her to find her own path and her own source of strength.
I'd hate for your words to her to come back as ammo against you at a later date by your H or by her.
You said that you want her to keep talking to you. Do you mind me asking why? What are you hoping to get from these discussions with her?
What you do is always your choice, of course. I'm not judging you on that...I just truly don't understand what you're getting from it.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
