I said look I like it when the kids are with you it relives my anxiety, because my imagination goes crazy thinking there is someone else. I said I trust you, but its just my imagination.
You wonder why she gets annoyed and upset???? You are sending mixed messages Phil.
I trust you.......
But when the kids are with you it's easier to trust you.
So this screams out, when you don't have the kids I don't trust you.
Phil, you have got to try and help yourself and stop talking. When you talk, you cause problems for yourself and don't even realize you are doing it.You have to stop talking so darn much.
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Well she got annoyed because she just wanted me to pick up son, and she was there and had to call her mom back.
Damn skippy she got annoyed, it was a yes or no question and you instead gave her a dissertation on your lack of trust. Here's how it should have gone.
W: Phil can you get our S from my mom's, my friends bday is today and we are going for a drink.
Phil: Yep, no problem OR No, sorry I can't tonight.
That's it...........
You ever heard of self fulfilling prophecy Phil? Maybe you want this to fail, because you are sure as hell not changing the behaviors that are going to make it fail.
