I will attempt to answer your question. You may be right that it would strike a nerve with him and remind him of your past. First ask yourself what is the overall picture that you would like to gain with him? Are you wanting to get him back? If that is the case and talking about the miscarriage right now is a touchy subject with him you may want to wait a little bit and play if by ear. Would talking to him about the miscarriage put you any closer to your goal? The DR book says to try to approach things with a beginners mind kinda like square one again. Can you achieve some ground being friends? You said that he took the D papers with him and hasn't mentioned it since. You are still in there and no one gets a D in a week, just doesn't work that way. Get a copy of The Divorce Remedy and start there if you haven't already. It will help you focus on the big picture and your goals. Read the bible, in the back go to the concordance and look up husband, wife, marriage, and then you can reference where in the bible it talks about these things. Also in Matthew 6:6 it talks about prayer. God needs your attention, faith, and trust right now and you need him. One last thing go to http://www.rejoiceministries.org look at the Q&A, there is about 23 pages of questions, 10 per page that are helpful. While you are there be sure to sign up for the daily e-mails, I have found those to be very helpful. All of these things are help build you up and give you strength. The toughest thing is having patients this just takes time, trust me it sucks, my W has been out for 3 months and I'm still not sure where I am with her. You can take a look at my thread on Walk Away Spouse: Where am I at in this thing. Anyway bluerain try to stay strong and hang in there. God and praying are the best things you can do.
