Wife Filed And I Need Help With Busting ASAP

[Scott123]

Need some advice on what to say in this coming situation:

I know it is just a matter of days before W and I are going
to have to have a discussion about money. She is really friendly
to me when she is seeking money and I know that I have to have
lay down some kind of law based on her actions. These actions:

1. She has already filed for divorce and said that there is
nothing I can do or say that will change her mind. She said
I need to get it through my head that we are getting divorced
and that she cannot be happy with me.

2. She has said that she does not want to be friends now.

3. She has said she met someone else.

4. She has a gambling problem.

Those are the four issues that I see as a major reason for
me to not be giving her any kind of financial support other than
my obligation to our children.

How do you suggest I tell her this without it going into a
negative backslide?

She is already asking for money and I am stalling so it is
just a matter of a short time before I have to have this
conversation with her.

I'm not quite sure how to handle it. I was thinking of asking her
to go for a walk with me to talk about our financial situation
and how the D will affect that. I'm pretty sure i can get her to
gor for a walk. I would simply hold her hand and tell her I will
support her as a friend, but cannot do it financially because
of the 4 reasons above. Stating the 4 reasons will be difficult
as I don't want her to take it as an attack or as spite or
anything like that.

Do you think I should just tell her that I'm really hurt and
worried about her because of the changes I see and the self
destructive behavior, tell her I'll be there for her to help,
but she needs to want to help herself first.

There is no way to avoid the conversation, I already see how
she is acting because of me stalling about the money so
it's definitely coming quick.

I don't know if she will get defensive, get angry, get upset
or what.

- Scott