Trouble on the lake erie shore #3

[Neilh23]

forrest...you have no idea how true that is. I clearly see and feel my W's pain. Esp. with regards to being supported..... to make a long story short, i learned many behaviors from my parents.. and one them revolves around reflective listening. I always tried to fix my W's problems...never really listened. I always supported her, just not in the way she wanted.... When my sitch started and i talked to my parents about it...they tried to solve the problem by telling me not to beat myself up....and didn't really listen to me....

i feel her pain. not entirely, but i do. ugh.

and now creeps in self doubt........ almost as if i know i can change myself, but does she really believe it and want to see it? i know the mantra, but still......

i also know that we both made this choice....subtly, unintentionally, whatever. we both made this choice. it's hard because it's such a painful choice........but in the grand scheme of things, it's the right one. neither one of us could continue to live like that anymore.....

thanks

pisces....i do all the time. we had a blast at the zoo today....