OK I am over the rant about a video apology, but I have bought a book called the Power of the Apology..as recommended by others on the bb.
The other things I have realized is that my SO is in need of me proving I am consistent and not just being nice for short time.
I believe I am in the opposite position of most of you given the insecurity of my SO. The realilty is that I have to ACT as IF he is special and do things just a bit above friend level. I have to be the one who calls and initiates.
This is hard to do being the woman pursuer..very awkward. Not being there shows I do not care and I know that is how he thinks. I have talked with another individual who was in this sit adn he said, yes..be consistent, call, send letters keep making him feel special..the moment you stop contacting the self-fulfilling prophecy he has in his -that you do not and cannot really change will come true.
This is a 180 for me to keep it up, because in the past I would quit after a time of being nice.
So this week, I did leave a message last Sunday (Fathers Day)that I appreciated him being there for my father back in Dec. and that I wished his father a speedy recovery (his father is in the hospital)
Then today, I left him a note on his door and a lot of TIDE (I had left over from a trade show)The note said..
Quote: Have fun at Bubble Land (the laundrymat) I wanted to get this to you before I left for vacation and say goodbye 'Bye!' I will talk to you when I get back on the 3rd.
I have to apply the opposite of some techniques with this man. Any one else have ideas, been in this sit or had this happen?
