TELL ME YOU ARE NOT GOING TO VIDEO TAPE AN APOLOGY!!!
That is THE last thing you want to do unless getting him to think you can't handle his distancing is what you're after. Apologizing allthough sincere, is not attractive to an alien. If I'm him, I want to see strength, I want my request for space and friendship respected, and above all, I want to know you are not emotionally reliant on me. I'm the guy, let me initiate the R stuff if and when I'm ready. Right now I'm not ready, and I really appreciate you respecting that and listening to me when I confide in you. Thats pretty much what is going thru his mind based on reading your posts.
Happy, you did so well the last time you talked to him because you did not pressure him and you listened to him when he discussed important personal issues with you. For now, I would suggest you do not go over your 21 points with him, he is not mentally or emotionally at that level where he can appreciate those intentions. That list is like 21 boxes of TIDE to him right now Happy, he's not ready for that.
Take it slow, I think your best medium for communication is the phone. Stay dark, this stuff takes time. Be the quiet kind confidant behind the scenes while he deals with his issues. Like I've said before, he knows you're there, he knows what you want, he knows you're willing to make changes and sacrifices, he knows all that. Let him be, draw him back by lovingly detaching.
Keep working on your PMA, you've got a big trip planned, you've been working out, you're looking good, summer is here. Let the sitch rest and unfold on its own, at least until you get back.
