At my school the french horn players played those during marching band, the regular french horn during concert band, but I never knew what it was called....I think I shall refer to it as the melonphone b/c that sounds more fun!
I found the lip control on a French Horn to be really challenging. After playing the trombone the mouthpiece was way too small! Trumpet wasn't quite as bad!
Grrr....up and down weekend. As I mentioned on the 4th, H invited himself to go to the parade with us. Then he disappeared. I remember last year he left us home alone in the afternoon while he went to a cookout. (loser) I took Ds to dinner that night and took them to the same place this year. We actually had fun without him.
Yesterday I was gone in the evening because I had a volunteer obligation at D15's school. H decided to take the Ds canoeing even though it isn't his weekend. I guess I should give him credit for finally doing something with the Ds, but it irks me that two days that were mine he imposes himself in.
Today he texted D15 in the early afternoon about taking her driving. (That would be another day he imposed.) D told him we were headed to the mall and then I was dropping her at her friends house. At this point it is time for Woog to get out the 2x4. After I dropped D15 at her friend's, I went to a store w/ D10 to look for a patio set. We found one we wanted and it was $50 less than I had seen the day before. The only probably was I couldn't fit it all in my car so I called H to see if he was nearby. H wasn't but he said he could be there in 15-20 min. H then called me twice while he was on his way. Once he got there he mentioned that he was at a housewarming. I apologized, saying I was sorry for interupting, but I didn't know he was busy. H said it was ok, he was glad to get out of there. After he got to the house he unloaded the stuff and left. There were a couple of things that needed to be put together. H said I could do that, which I thought was good that he thought I could do it.
So I know I shouldn't have called him, but I wanted the patio set. When H left he told D he would see her tomorrow, but it is my day. So here we are with 4 days that H should not have seen the Ds and he will see them everyday. Tomorrow is the day we met with the Ds' T. It should be an interesting session. I planned to tell him that he is not welcome at the house except to pick up the Ds for his visits. I was also planning to tell him he has to take them somewhere that I'm not leaving my home anymore. Now I guess I gave up some credibility today.
R 23 years M 20 years Bomb June 2007 S Oct 2007 Ds 11 & 16 Ds and I moved out Aug. 2008
I'm in a similar spot right now with H. He has to do his midweek visits at the house due to logitics with how far away he is staying right now, his work schedule, or D's bedtimes etc. I feel like our "separation" isn't separate enough to really have an impact on him missing us. Like your H, he sees the girls a TON (which I'm happy for on one hand) but I still don't think he has a clue of what it is really going to be like.
I do think you would look a bit hypocritical after calling him for help, to then say he isn't welcome at the house unless it's just to pick up the D's. Hard one, but maybe give it a couple of weeks to let this recent time of asking for help pass. Just curious, why do you want to state that? Is it like my situation, where you want him to have that space, do you really not WANT to see him, is he REALLY infringing on planned times, is it punishement? Just really curious of what your intentions are behind it?
Chris
__________ Me:39 H:39 D:8 D:4 M:9 (T 13) Bomb 4-5-08, H moved out 6-16-08, Reconciled and H moved back in 5-31-09 Still doing GREAT a year later!!!
Wow. I am reading your thread and realizing that maybe I am a little fortunate in that I don't get to see my H all that much!!! I thought it was a downfall, but now I realize that it is probably a good thing!!!
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
