Treese, Your H isn't interested in spending time with his kids because he is too self-absorbed. He is seeking his own pleasurable activities without caring about anyone else. This is typical of most MLCers.
You can't control what he's doing. You can't control if he's in ILY stage with OW. You can't control if he's going to spend time with his kids. What you can do is let him go to make his own mistakes. That is the only way he'll learn from them. And it's quite possible that he doesn't believe he's making any mistakes. But at some point, he will look around and see that his relationships have deterioriated. THEN, he will have some soul searching to do.
But you just have absolutly no control over how long this will take. It's hard to be strong in this situation, but you'll find a way. We all do. Just do your best to turn the focus on you and your kids.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
