Glad to hear you're into validating. It's helpful, in many ways.
Knowing your love language, as well as your partner's is very helpful. Also, just developing the skill of doing it yourself really helps, and you'll see big breakthroughs there, too.
I also appreciate and find helpful materials from Dr. John Gottman. He writes a lot about validating. I think you'll find some of his stuff very helpful.
Most of all, in the validating process, don't get so caught up in the fact that you're doing it, but without a purpose. It's easy to get into the activity without direction. Be sure that validate with purpose so that you can go the direction that you want to go.
Keep up the good work. You'll appreciate the growth. Do Right
