F2b,

I forgot to mention this website to you. It offers a lot of hope and stories of reconciliation. It is a Christian site (read 'Restored Marriages'). Don't know what your beliefs are but here it is. Give it a look. Christa told me about this and another one:

http://rejoiceministries.org/

This one is motivational and very encouraging:

http://joelosteen.lakewood.cc/site/PageServer?pagename=JOM_homepage

Me: 46 Second Marriage
WAW: 38 First Marriage
Separated: Dec. 2007
W Filed for D: Feb. 2008
For more hope, click: http://rejoiceministries.org/