"Ok FG he replied...he wantd 2 no who the text was meant 4!!"
So we can take from that he was not expecting it. Now.. you used !! after the last statement.. So.. did he call and ask or text back and ask?
"I guess he thot I sent it 2 him by mistake...don't no if that is good or bad...but it got a reaction I do suppose!!"
Well it was beyond your expectations. Is it the exact thing we were looking for.. maybe.
Now I don't like texting.. its ok.. but you can get so much more done talking to the other person. I use text just to send little bits of info.. my wife likes to talk out the whole day.
How we can use this hopefully is to get him to call. Right now we are just testing and seeing what he responds to.
If I had texted you with that.. and you responded with "who was that for?" I might had said something like.. "You just popped into my mind.. so I said Good Morning."
The general idea is to get him to call you.. or start texting you without you doing it first..
This can factor in at any time. If you are at work and bored.. just send a text that says "God I am bored". The idea is the texts will be centered around non descript stuff.. while leaving the door open for communication from him. Does that make sense? Kinda like something you would send to a girlfriend. Just "Hey whats up type stuff."
Now.. you will need to pay attention to what comes back. We don't want to irritate him.. so if the response's seem that way don't respond. If you are not sure.. post them up.. you will get the hang of it.
Now if things go well and he calls.. again keep things light and make sure you sound happy. I always tell people to smile when they are talking.. it does work. Just simple things centered around the text that brought about the call. If you are busy and can't answer.. let it go to VM.. make sure to call back. When you call back tell him right away.. Sorry I was doing X. And linger for a second. Use your words.. just I guess my thought process.
Something like..
You: Sorry I was in the middle of changing a bed pan. (pause)
1 of two things is going to happen.. silence.. or he will talk.
If you get silence.. then you say.. I saw you called and was just calling back. Whats up with you?
Questions are a good way to talk to someone. It allows you to control where you are going. Again.. use your words.. you just gotta think on your feet.
You do this with the people you talk to on a regular basis.. you just have to learn to apply it to him.
So.. on that note.. lets fire some random texts and see what happens. Keep them reasonable and keep them within a time frame that does not intrude on sleeping, dinner, work. You kinda know his schedule.. so you should be able to fit things in. Now a drawback to this.. could be you might find out he has "someone". This "pushing" can have a bad side. For me.. It has more good in it than bad. If you think we need to modify anything.. let me know.
Remember these are ideas.. and I want you to think on your own to. Don't treat him like the H you left. Treat him as the guy you just met.. that your not sure is really interested.
Starting over is just that.. you go at it from the aspect of you are starting over. You have a clean slate.. he has a clean slate.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
