I fiddled and fiddle with this as I didn't want to just copy and paste your suggestion but in the end it basically got down to the basics which was just as you said, so apologies for plagiarism but this is what I end up with....however, I'm still too chicken to send it. I'm meeting up with him for dinner tomorrow night, his birthday is Monday, we have mediation on Monday - am I just setting myself up for drama? maybe I should keep it for mediation? Am I just putting it off?


Subject Line: A Request.

Dear h,

On Thursday when I came home, I noticed that you had been in the house. I have to be honest, it made me uncomfortable that I didn’t know you were coming by.

I would appreciate if you would let me know beforehand if you need to come to the house unexpectedly. It is not a problem for you to come over as long as I know about it.

Thanks

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As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe