It says the legal system works, but not in the way it was intended.
Most folks file for divorce because they've already found somebody or something that makes it worth the effort to leave the stability they've known.
The 'cooling off' period is a honeymoon phase for the one who files (after their initial sorrow). The candy store is open again, guilt free. They have already left, checked out while the unexpecting spouse is shocked then mortified to discover obvious indicators they never expected. Or if they brought them up, they were denied. Who wants to admit being caught in a lie?
Most people leave when there's a more viable alternative. In the same way very few people leave a job without a new one lined up, don't buy a house without being ready to sell their current home.. spouses leave.
And it's annoying. I should wait at least a year until after the divorce papers are signed for my own well being. And here he is living with someone much younger living having the life he wants. It didn't seem fair. He gets it all, the choice to leave, to force a divorce giving me no say or chance, feeling 'young' again.
