Thanks sc, I really appreciate it. Nobody should believe that I was a perfect husband, or even a great husband, maybe not even a good one. And I am a difficult person to live with. All the things W complains about me and in our M are true. I read your thread, though, and wish she had the ability to reassess her actions, acknowledge the value of our M, and had the strength to do something about it rather than throw up her hands and call it impossible. But it wasn't.
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Well, now you know how high maintenance I really am!
I'm in the big city now. My parents are here and I feel like a little kid again getting grilled about my prom date. No peep from W since Monday. D14 and I go to see the Sox/Yankees game tomorrow. It's good to get away.
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You can practice the joy hug on your mom, after she finishes caring for the teensy weensy booboo on your tootsie.
The 'joy' hug is a two part hug (developed by me).
On the first side you hug to the left, a way of saying 'hello'. Then you separate while taking a breath and hug on the right side. As you exhale while hugging you send love traveling from your chest. The more relaxed you are the more love you can send.
When done correctly you feel calm and gently relaxed.
My mom is not the most emotionally demonstrative person in the world (please, no psychoanalysis). When she was asking about W and the D last night it was all logistics - is the house in my name or both, what's going to happen to it, are the lawyers expensive, is there going to be alimony - stuff like that. Not even a single question about how I'm doing or how W and the girls are dealing with it.
Not that hot today, but it is muggy. I'll go get D14 a little later this morning. Off and on showers but I think the ballgame will be a go. My neice is in an "American Girl" play downtown, so we might go see that. She is quite the little actress - she is the voice of one of the regulars on the "Little Einsteins" kid show on Disney Channel.
Are we still on for movie night on 7/12? Double feature starting at 7PM? If that sounds good, I'll start putting up flyers.
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Off and on showers but I think the ballgame will be a go.
As a Yankees fan, I am hoping for the rain out....
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When she was asking about W and the D last night it was all logistics - is the house in my name or both, what's going to happen to it, are the lawyers expensive, is there going to be alimony - stuff like that. Not even a single question about how I'm doing or how W and the girls are dealing with it.
G, mom's are also very very bright....I can wager with you that she was analyzing how you answered the logistical questions to guage how you are doing. Mom's have there own ways of figuring out how their kids feel without being direct. My mom is much the same......
Maybe... But really, she and Dad are always like that. They simply do not talk about their emotions and never ask about mine. I inherited that from them, but I'm breaking that mold.
You can pray for rain but it won't help!
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