If he has really broken things off with OW (or vice-versa), there's going to be a grieving period before he wants to be in the M, or any other relationship. So, it is a step in the right direction, though we don't know what steps will follow.
Take good care of yourself, Pinkie!
I think Jeff is right on the money with this one. Until he gets through the WD from OW he won't be able to do anything remotely approaching even being civil to you. Just ignore everything right now. The detaching is what you have to do to get through this. If the alien mother ship leaves and your real H comes back, great, but if not, by detaching you can remove yourself from the crap.
Keep your chin up!
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
