It would be so nice to call up my h and say look read this, it's all explained here! We're sorted, now come home and we can work on this. Hmmm don't think it's going to work that way! In fact I tried it once and got no reaction!!! (cringe!) I can see how annoying that would be to our s's.
I suppose the only thing that we can try and do is to realise those patterns and not fall into them. That is the only way we can change the negative patterns and interactions with our partners. It's bloomin' frustrating though!!
