Where is the real me? What do I want?

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As a female, I would love to get that email. I'm not sure a male would, it might be 'too wordy'.

I think you need a guy's perspective on this one.

How about this condensed version?

Hi there,

On Thursday when I came home, I found the mail on the kitchen bench. I am assuming that means you came home to do something.

I realise that you need to come to the house. However, I do ask that you let me know beforehand that you are going to go to the house and why. It’s not about hiding stuff, it’s about respect for my space. It makes me uncomfortable to have my living space entered without me knowing.

I believe I have said this before in counselling and I think in face to face conversations with you - it’s not about preventing you coming to the house, it’s about me feeling that you respect my space and privacy. I don’t have access to your place and whilst you legally have a right to be in our house, it is not your living space at this time. I’m hoping that you won’t read this as a “get the fark out of my space” but instead read it as “I’d appreciate knowing that you respect my space”.

Yours in trying to communicate better

Kazzie