I've been separated, living in different states since June of 2007. I haven't spoken to my husband since late Dec. 2007. Him and OW changed their numbers the weekend before he filed....BEHIND MY BACK. I found out 20 minutes after he filed by calling th circuit clerk in the county he lives in.
So if you don't want to experience the waiting and suspense, I believe you can call the circuit clerk in the county your husband lives in and ask.
Funny b/c my husband used separation as grounds, which is one of five or six grounds for divorce in Arkansas, but a lot of dates don't match up (ex., correct birthdates for our children but way off on the date of our marriage) I thought he would file under general indignities which is similar to irreconcilable differences, but you have to prove it...and if separation is used, you have to be separated at least 18 mos before filing and you have to provide a witness who knows from their own knowledge, not what your spouse says or tells them that the both of you have been separated for at least 18 mos. My time is up for that around this Dec. Also weird how one of the papers that was signed kind of doesn't look like my husband's signature.
Well it took me almost 3 weeks to file a response b/c I was thinking about a lot. My husband represented himself...guess thinking I wouldn't have a CLUE he filed b/c I live in another state...he did his filing pretty sloppy. I hired an attorney. So even though I could've counter-filed to make the divorce grounds valid, I filed a motion to dismiss. The divorce was dismissed 3 mos. later. My husband was given 50 days to amend his complaint and he never did. Sometimes I wonder if he even knows what the judge ordered. Right now I'm waiting for him to be served with child support papers. We have 2 kids...one is 3 yrs old the other is almost 1. Maybe that will be a wake up call for him.
So, I guess what I'm trying to help you to see is that anything can happen at any time.
My husband used to tell me he's going to file...told his family, told his gf and her family....took him almost 8 mos to file...but for whatever reason and nly he and God knows why...it wasn't done right and even though he had the 50 days to amend his complaint, he didn't...
Hang in there and try not to worry so much. There are many people who get back together regardless of the situation.
