W is dead against MC because it would mean her having to open up and admit to things that she has done wrong and more. Stop being ultra defensive. I mean the way she acts now, the only thing she has done wrong was getting caught out by me. When we've tried C is the and past it ended with her saying she doesn't want to sit down with someone who tries to tell her how to run her M. W did mention MC when she was floundering after finishing with OM but that was one of many random thoughts coming from her head and she never acted on it. W has also said that things like MC are more for me ( the LBS) rather than couples trying to save the M. I do think we could use some form of mediation but W doesn't want to take that route.
On the wedding ring thing I could be quite flexible on this, but I wouldn't feel true in myself if I just put the old ring on. We could both get new rings and I could go with that if I didn't feel that W would just be collecting another item of jewellery rather than cherishing a new M. I don't want to take the route of renewing vows cos at our original wedding W went out of her way to cut several words out. "Love, Honour & Obey" I think Obey definitely got the chop along with anything that indicated the W to be submissive to the H.
Things do pick up at home when I give, give, give (emotionally, physically and financially) but sometimes I wish we could both sit down and be relaxed in each others company and not worry about us, I don't think we've ever had that.
