your story is mind blowing. i am so impressed with the effort put forth by you and your husband. i don't know that i'd call it 'unconditional love'... i think it's making the choice to love the one you promised to love through good and bad.
your story makes me want to show my husband that i'll be there for him... but my pride gets in my way and we don't have children and he is so stoic and it's just all so confusing.
thank you for sharing so much with us. it must trudge up lots of feelings.
xoxoxoxoxoxoxo R.
Hey Girlie R, I'm sure it is confusing. Pride is an interesting thing. I would encourage you to do as much as YOU need to, so that if it doesn't work out with you two, YOU have no regrets.
My C says the key ingredients to a healthy relationship are;
power equality respect a shared sense of destiny interaction
He also says;
to take things at face value. Ask questions instead of making strong declaratory statements. Ask for what you want & need in a clear respectful tone. Treat each other like a 50/50 business partner.
Have you asked your H why he's so stoic ? What is he afraid of showing ? or exposing ?
xoxo You're such a sweetie.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
