and honestly, i don't know if i could hold my W as she cried about another man....depends on my state of mind...in other words which of my two minds was in control...rational vs emotional...the emotional one would feel all those negative feelings, and my rational one would feel terrible and want to comfort my friend....... Your husband is amazing!
Neil, my "old" husband would have been emotional & rejecting. His pride would have made him put his foot down & not tolerate this treatment. His ego would have wanted to save face.
The "new" husband is amazing. He put me first. He put my needs first. He pushed his own emotions aside to nurture mine.
I have a saying on my fridge, it's really about kids, but it applies here to;
"their needs must come before your wants, but their wants must never come before your needs".
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
