I am going to a friends for a cookout later today. D17 is supposed to be going to her Dad's (of course, something I instigated since he wouldn't think of it!). Last night I cooked myself a steak, had a glass of wine, and just enjoyed dinner for the first time in a long time. It was even ok being alone! Guess I have come a long way from the 4th of July 2007.
We are expecting a house full of friends from out of town and they are all spending the night since the fireworks will be tonight. Luckily we can watch them from our front yard.
I'm jsut checking the boards before I start cooking.
Me 54 DS19 and DS17 Married 06/1989 Divorced 01/2011
D17 is wanting to show her independence. She is coming home late. Doesn't want to tell me where she is going. Doesn't want to live with either me or her dad. She keeps saying she wants to move out. She doesn't have a job. I'm getting grayer by the minute! (On the good side she still says she wants to finish high school and go to college. She is involved with an art project that keeps her busy during the day Mon - Thur and she seems to be really enjoying that).
The sad thing is I don't feel I can talk to her dad about this. He'll just blame my messy housekeeping in some form. I have tried to say that she needs to show some responsibiity and then she'll gain more freedom.
Any ideas?
I wish I had ideas, but it seems that when a spouse finds a OP they forget about parenting duties and we are left to fend on our own. I think you are doing well though...hang in there. She will look back one day and realize that it was Mom who was there for her!
Hugs, Yoyo
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
D17 was with her dad for the 4th. I had a nice time at a cookout and didn't have to worry about D17. I was content. However, later I received an email from my SIL saying they had gone to exH's cookout for a short time and mentioned seeing D17 and lots of his boating friends. It hurt to think he was having a big party instead of having D17 as his focus (D17 has told me before she doesn't enjoy his boating friends). It also hurt that he's moving on with such ease......(of course, he had a head start!)
I have to say ONE nice thing about my exH! D17 was mad at me and announced "I'm going to go talk to dad!". She came back home and said she was sorry. Not sure what he said, but he must have supported me! At least we are getting better at co-parenting.....
What it be Matty! How's life! Not too bad here...the EX is out in TX right now with MY kids and will be back on the 15th. Can't wait either. I redid S16 (17 next month!) bedroom. New PC desk...queen size bed....put shelves up for his trophies and stuff....will be getting a closet organizer this payday for him too. He should be pretty happy. D14 (15 next month!) well, her room needs a bulldozer, BUT, I'm gonna do the best that I can because she has a more specific taste than her brother. I have some things in mind but I want to show her and not let her know that those are the thins I would like to get her...like TRIP said, have in the decision making process even though she doesn't know I know what to get her...all has to do with cost really. Her room will be cleaned up and organized by Tuesday, just not with brand new stuff...she'll understand.
Well, I won't take up space on your thread...I'll post more on mine...just other details and stuff.....see ya!
Glad to hear from you, FA!