Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

Thanks everyone for the kind words and support. Honestly, I am doing okay. I guess I have been burned so many times, I'm kind of numb.

I think maybe OW was angry about him going to the lake with you and set this up so you'd find out and get angry enough to divorce him....

I think you are close to hitting the nail on the head. The exH also told me that their house has been put on the market. Their son said that Monday night his mother and her sister, nephew, and my H moved the few things that were the exH's into the garage. What gets me it wasn't that many things for her to have to call my H. The nephew is 19 and very capable of helping. I just think it was an excuse to call my H.

When I talked to my H I told him I was aware of also going over to help her move. He said that she called and asked him to bring a dolly over to move some things into the garage. Okay, it's a 2000 sq. ft one story house. I don't think it would have been that difficult to carry things out into the garage. The heaviest thing we are talking about is a bed frame! He said he went over there and helped them and left. He said he wasn't over there more than 15 minutes. He was trying to act like it was no big deal.

When the exH told me all of this I called my DD20 who lives with my H. She confirmed that OW and her son came over to the house and were in the driveway talking to H. (So I'm assuming the OW took it upon herself to stop by to visit and my H was too weak to let her leave without sleeping with her.) DD said she left because she didn't want to be around her. She said when she got back her car was gone. She said I didn't know they spent the night. She must have had her car in the garage. It's amazing how little regard they have for their children. What the he!! are they teaching their kids? It's alright to have an adulterous affair right under their nose. The sad thing is that her son is only 10 and already being exposed to such trash.

When I asked my H about them being over that night I told him that the exH had called and told me after a while. I didn't want him thinking DD had told me which he told me initially that's what he thought. In a way I'm upset that DD didn't tell me, but I also understand because she didn't want to in the "don't kill the messenger" situation. She has absolutely no faith in her dad anyway and has told me numerous times she wishes I would just give up.

If you all recall a few weeks ago my friend got caught cheating on her H. I thought they were working on things and then all of sudden while her H was at work she came home and packed everything in the house and moved. She wiped him out. My H and her H are very good friends. My H has been right there supporting her H. I told him that he had no right to judge the W and he said I know and I told the H that. I told him I hated this was happening to their family, they have two adult children and they are very upset too, of course. My H is at least getting a chance to see what it does to a family. He never acknowledged the hurt he caused me and our daughters. He always said it was just between me and him and had nothing to do with the girls. I think he is seeing now a very different side to what adultery does to a family.